Now this is one of those blogs where you, as the reader, will have to be utterly truthful with yourself in order to answer this question. We love to lie to ourselves based on what we think everyone else would want to hear or what we THINK we should be saying based on morality of the world- but sometimes those answers aren’t what we really feel deep down inside about an issue. That being said, think about these scenario and how you would REALLY feel.
You have been through the highs and the lows of the dating scene. Had your heart broken, crushed a few along the way, all in the hopes that you will be finding THE one that will make you the happiest person in the world. You’ve not settled, you’ve maintained your ideal and along the way- the universe answers your call. It sends you the perfect mate. He is your soul mate, the one you want to be with forever.
You get married, you move in together, you start having the most perfect children in the world. The job is stable, you’re happy- he’s happy- you’re all happy. This is what you’ve told yourself you wanted and now you have it.
What is it worth to you to keep?
Now, lets say, unbeknownst to you, your perfect husband isn’t so perfect? He has decided that you aren’t the one for him OR he’s just not satisfied with ONE person only and he cheats on you.
Would you want to know? That is my question- would you want to find out that your entire happiness that you’ve built up is called into question because he must find solace in the arms of others. What if he does love you but just can’t be faithful?
Everything you’ve wanted your entire life you have. Is peace of mind worth more than knowing about his piece of ass?
Now- flip that coin. Let say you are the one who cheats- for whatever reason- but you know that ultimately he will NEVER find out about it.
Do you still feel honor bound to tell him about it? Ruining HIS happiness to alleviate the guilt you feel about it? What is the right thing to do?
His happiness or your honor?
We all know that in both situations ONCE the transgression is known it will have to be dealt with- either in break up..trust lost.. etc etc.
My questions focus on the bliss we have when we’re ignorant. Our ability to fly before someone tells us we don’t have wings.
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~~Do you ever look up into the sky in the afternoon and notice the moon is still visible? That is what i endeavor to be: The random occurance that makes you pause to think about the grander scheme of it all, if only for a moment~~
2 comments:
i rather not know .. and hopefully i can live in blissfull ignorance ! So my view is dont cheat but if u do dont tell him and dont get caught.
people don't admit to cheating because they feel that the other person 'deserves to know'. they are eaten up by guilt and can only alieve said burden by ... you guessed it, burdening the very person they have wronged.
if you cheat, keep your mouth shut. opening it will only make you feel better and him/her feel worse.
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