Where in the Solar System are we?

If a picture is worth a thousand words, then perhaps a glance could be worth a thousand emotions. I recently read that within one glance a man will sum up a woman with one question: “Would I sleep with her?” And then out of that glance about 70% of the women that a man comes in contact with are put into the “No” category. This is the reason they just HAVE to have that look. It is instinct for them to visualize that question and answer it immediately. It is not even considered window shopping, it’s the primal urge they are born with, and while most do it sub-consciously, its still done.

A woman’s primal instinct is to breed, a man’s is to find someone to breed with. We have an entirely different and complex system by which we “instantly” judge a man. I think the problem, however, is that we’re unclear whether those judgments are made from social pressures we are raised to adhere too or if they are the equal instinctual reaction.

While I was waiting for the train recently, I played the game with myself: I looked at all the men within my direct vicinity and asked myself the yes or no question. On no other criteria than looks alone, I ticked off each man into a “yes” “No” and “possibly” category. The interesting thing is that I had to consciously force myself to look around and ask myself this question. On a typical basis, most of the men I see pass by without such a quick assessment of them. Obviously, there are those that catch my eye, and I’ll turn a lustful stare at a well formed ass or nice broad shoulders, but it is not typical.

Why is this? I think that as a woman, my brain has been pre selected what attracts it and what is off limits. It also has the capability to desire more than just the “physical”. I am looking for not only a mate, but a potential father. I also know for myself that I wait to see who tries to catch my attention. If a man stares at me, I don’t think “sex” I think, Wow..he has nice eyes, or .. do I have food in my teeth?

How much of this thinking has been a condition of my upbringing? Wouldn’t it make more sense, logically, for me to want to “try out” as many potential partners as possible in order to ensure the best choice for my future offspring? Lets hear it for natural selection! Men are encouraged in this type of behavior from early on, whereas women who show an inclination towards it are shunned, put down, or have it corrected as bad behavior.

The women of the late 60s/70s understood this concept and practiced free love, but it was unfortunately coupled with the explosion of drugs. This free love concept got shot down as a side effect off too much acid instead of being held up as a changing historical trend for women.

Fast forward 30 years to the millennia. The availability of education for all and mass trends in communication have leveled the playing field between men and women in the work force and every year the glass ceiling gets closer and closer to shattering.

And yet on the mating level, the trends are showing higher rates of divorces than ever before. Are the sexes, on an instinctual level, being brought up with conditional responses that put us too far apart to understand each other at the fundamental levels anymore?

I don’t believe it is the requirement that the “MEN” in the world adapt themselves to suit us, instead, I think we should be modifying our own behaviors as women to get back to our basic instincts. If we could do that for ourselves and our future generations, we might be able to rectify the widening gap and realize that in the end, we are ALL from Earth.